What prostitutes really offer men is on-demand, cost-effective, emotionally painless sex and temporary intimacy, with very few strings attached. Considering a date and movie for two will run a guy $60, and the average prostitute about $120 to $200, the choice, if you are just looking for sex, is simple. I have been on many dates where, after spending $60 and listening to stories about crazy ex-husbands or boyfriends and other turnoffs, I thought, “Gee, I could have spent the evening reading Scientific American Mind and saved a lot of money!” And I haven’t even included the time it takes to find a date in the first place—going out to bars, church, and so on.
I have, in my younger years, pretended to be very interested in or even in love with a woman just to have sex with her. Obviously, using a prostitute’s services to satisfy my sexual needs would have been more ethical, as it would have been decidedly less painful for my date. As a buddy of mine once said, “The relationship between a prostitute and her client is the most honest relationship a man and woman will ever have.”
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Add CommentYou have a letter favoring the earning method of sex workers. But the writer chooses to withhold his name. I agree with his position. Our difference is I am happy to give my name and town of residence. And I would enjoy getting in the face of anyone who opposes sex work.
Reply | Report Abuse | Link to thisG. Stanley Brown
Fairfax, Virginia
Dear "Name Withheld": you seem to have forgotten the most ethical of possibilities for your sex life. Namely, not having sex if you can't get a woman to sleep with you without lying to her or paying her. Not all, but many many women go in to prostitution as a result of a serious deficiency in self-esteem and because they don't beleive they are worth more (often resulting from sexual abuse or neglect). Believing sex with one of these women is ethical just because you pay her is seriously misguided.
Reply | Report Abuse | Link to thisOne is reminded of the ridiculous and yet ever-prevalent question "Are women human?" Mr. Name Withheld appears to think not.
Reply | Report Abuse | Link to thisThe deficiency in self-esteem that julmaki refers to is only prevalent in sex workers who charge low fees. We high-end professional girlfriends (who, btw, are indistinguishable from other girlfriends whose boyfriends buy them a lot of expensive things, take them to expensive places, and "help them out" on their bills) have nice, healthy self-images, thank you very much!
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