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Should I Stay or Should I Go? How to Make Tough Decisions

We’ve all been in situations where the choice is anything but clear. How do you know when to keep on keepin’ on, or wave the white flag of surrender?

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Fish or cut bait. Put up or shut up. There’s even a certain saying regarding the bathroom. Whatever you call it, it’s the endless conundrum of choice that comes from that pesky thing called free will.

We make a million decisions a day, from what to eat for breakfast to what shoes to wear, but some choices can get a lot more complicated. For instance, a job that fills your bank account but drains your humanity one billable hour at a time: stay or go? A partner you adore but with whom you fight daily: stay or go?


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For better or worse, what we truly want and what is best for us can be hard to tease out. Therefore, this week here are 6 tips for handling ambiguous situations that leave us wondering if we should stick it out, or get out.

Tip #1: Would you expect others to do the same? Loyalty, a sense of duty to a larger cause, or plain old fear of ruffling feathers can all complicate matters when we’re deciding whether to stay or go.

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